It struck me how easy it is for us to associate objects with people.
Like how at work we refer to desks, computers, a chair, with the person who occupies them. To the point that when a new person joins we say “give him Andrew’s desk” even though it’s not his desk anymore because Andrew left the company six months.
It’s even worse when, for the foreseeable future, the new employee won’t even have a name other than “the new Andrew” because we feel the need to create a mental reference point for the new, unknown factor so that we can correctly associate and classify their existence within the organization.
We cannot live without reference points. We feel lost if we are not able to connect one thing to another and get confused when forced to do so.
But, we don’t just do this with objects. We do this with emotions too. “He is an angry person.” “She is very bitter.” “They are a real nag.” etc. etc. The funny thing is, they’re not. But, as long as we can keep them in our classification system, our world makes sense.
Why? Because it’s easier.
Maybe even worse than all, we do this to ourselves as well. But doing so will keep you forever stuck in that place you thought you left six months ago.